Sometimes, we just don’t feel like dealing with some stuff in life and ignore things. Like having to do laundry, a project that will take time to start and finish, and so you are waiting for the right time to start it. You put it off until you have like a couple of extra days or extra hours.
When does anyone have that kind of time?
I am a busy person, so I have to make time if I am to use that much time. So I avoid making that kind of time. If I wait, I will not work on my project and I will not have that kind of time until I retire.
Avoiding is what many of us do best. It is just going to take up our energy, planning, and whatever else it takes right?
How about dealing with what hurts us?
That is even a worse and more painful emotional ordeal, that we have to deal with. So sometimes, we pretend the pain is not there. Which, is really worse.
Blocking Trauma
So we block it. You really have to be a very strong person to pretend something did not happen. Like an assault, rape, violence, or something so hurtful, it is hard not to feel the pain or the suffering.
Some people start taking pain killers, some take street drugs, meth, ecstasy, cocaine, alcohol, weed, or pot takes a lot more marijuana to kill pain, but if combined with other drugs, that could help too.
Some people use food. Food is a very good source of feeling another kind of emotion that covers up the underlying emotion. This makes you have a calming, numbing, and relaxing feeling, which, it makes you feel free from the pain from past trauma.
What happens is the brain will adjust to the feeling, so that it will become necessary to eat in order to avoid the pain and suffering. Because it feels good to your taste buds, fills you up with the eating and tasting, and produces hormonal responses that fill you with a warm sense of feeling love, protection, and security.
This avoidance of blocking the pain is only temporary.
Throwing yourself into your job, to avoid dealing with the pain and suffering of the traumatic event, is good, but again this is only temporary. You may think this is working and you are beginning to feel like all is going well.
But you are not getting a good night’s sleep.
Sleep is very important for anyone’s life. You were having trouble falling asleep, now, you are awakened by nightmares or flashbacks, even at work, while you are busy and not thinking about the traumatic event. Along with flashbacks, you are having intrusive thoughts, they come out of nowhere. You may ask yourself, “What is going on?”
Are We Listening to Our Bodies?
You may think you are doing well, but remember your body and mind remember what you have been going through. That means they want to be healed by all this; they want your attention to this situation. Left unattended, it will soon affect your health. It will start with something little like a headache, bellyache, slight pain in your chest, bladder infections, and the symptoms may go away, only to come back and stay longer.
If you go see a doctor, he will come up with his own conclusion of what’s happing to you and will try to cover up the problem with medications that come with less than desirable side effects.
Would you believe your body is trying to tell you something? Do we listen?
Make up your mind, to the point of being as courageous as you can be. You are setting a goal to live each day in the real world. It will help you set a goal to live each day in a direction of reality. This will help you make specific choices of recovery. To recover, you should also know that you are not alone.
It is important that you understand that your healing is going to probably be a difficult one. Seek the help of others. You will probably not be able to overcome these paralyzing feelings without the help and support of others.
One of the most common characteristics of a person who has experienced emotional injury is to have the tendency to be left “alone”. This is the depression talking. It is very important, that we recover to a healthy life, a healthy us, a healthy you.
It is vital for you to find a good counselor or someone who will treat you with emotional safety and will encourage you and understand you when you fail. Someone who has experience with trauma and its effects.
It has become a rule for me, that we can not do all this on our own. We need each other as survivors, including our Creator as we believe in, our higher selves, our spirit guides, our angels. We need a purpose to live.
Once you have reached your goal, teach someone who would like help in healing as well. Reach out to others who are suffering as you were. Give yourself a purpose.
Many blessings to you. May God give you courage and strength.