It’s amazing to me how different we all from each other, we all speak different languages, yet we can learn to speak them if we want to. But when it comes to communication, sometimes understanding each other emotionally, it is a different story. I have an autistic nephew, and it appears we have a difficult time with our communication.
We miss each other’s understanding or try to see eye to eye. I am trying to explain something to him and he thinks I am scolding him When I am just trying to explain something to him. So, I started reading about processing differences in which we speak another language. WTF.
Now they call it by another name. People who are autistic are called neurodivergent. Those who are not autistic are called neurotypical. As I understand none of us are at fault. We are speaking different languages.
There is a theory that when people who have different experiences of the globe interact with one another, there is a struggle to understand each other. A study and recent research from the University of Edinburgh found more problems in more ways of conversation and social communications.
Autistic people do not have a problem sharing information with other autistic people. Just as I feel the same way when I am communicating with someone who speaks the same languages as me.
The same is known when someone who speaks another language is speaking the same language there is not a problem. But when placed with for example a neurodivergent, there could be a misunderstanding, as if the interpretation is not translating in the same meaning of the interpretation. Yes, very confusing.
Lack of understanding goes in both directions with both neurotypical and neurodivergent. Autistic humans process emotions differently because they feel and sense at a higher extreme. They have a deeper feeling of emotion.
Almost 75% to 100% more when it comes to happiness, they are elated. Very interesting, when they are sad, however, they feel distraught, grief is like the end of their world. All feelings, taste smell, have a deeper effect. Where in the neurotypical, some of our emotions are turned off. Sometimes, because we do not want to feel so much because that is a way of protection for neuro-typical.
Neurodivergent people relate with those whose emotions match the situation of the moment like spending time with children or animals who do not hide their emotions they match facial expressions.
Neurodivergent is very smart/intelligent people, they learn differently, yet can do things quickly like math, placing images together quite quickly, I myself feel like their genius. I admire the way they think and place life in their perspective very nicely. And it is to make situations easier for themselves.
They drop the mask when they feel it is safe too. Phobias, anxiety, depression agitation, hostility, social isolation are not part of who they are, very remarkable. Meltdowns and shutting down is quite healing for the neurodivergent when they find themselves stressed and if it is intensified.
My fiancé is a neurodivergent, He is so much better for me than any neurotypical, He is so loving, sweet, funny, faithful, very important to me and he makes me laugh and makes me very happy. I want to make him very happy as well. We do have to learn to communicate. There are times, we don’t have to say anything to say “I love you.” He knows when I am sincere, he knows if I am thinking of something that is bothering me. He is a different type of man, and secretly… I love it! I am in love with this man! I do have to admit, he is beautifully different.
May God bless them all.
Rosa M. Luna