There was this story one of my smartest friends told me at one time and it made sense to me. There was this farmer who was working outside his barn, when all of a sudden, a big round one-ton roll of hay fell on him, pinning him face down. This farmer was there for a long time.
He couldn’t yell out loud enough because his face was almost covered with dirt under the hay. But he tried anyway hoping someone could hear him. After many hours someone did come by looking for him and heard him under the hay. He tried to push the hay off but it was too heavy just by himself.
The farmer tried to tell him to cut the strings holding the hay together, but the helping friend could not understand what the farmer was trying to say. The friend decided to get help and brought back several friends and they all pushed the hay off and got the farmer out. Afterward, the farmer said he was trying to tell people was to CUT THE STRINGS! The hay would have fallen around him and set him free.
Sometimes, the solutions to some of our problems are really hard to get, but they are not always the mountain we make them out to be. After we calm down, we can see it.
Unfortunately, it has happened to me, many times. All I had to do is see the problem from another angle or see it through other people’s eyes, or opinions. I don’t always listen.
It’s hard sometimes to listen to others when you are upset, or “I want to do it my way”. Sometimes you just have to get yourself out of the way.
What we do to get our communication understood
- We must be in a listening frame of mind. We appreciate everyone’s help, but maybe you want to be left alone and calm down.
- Communication isn’t all about you, it is a two-way street, we must remember that the other person’s thoughts and feelings are just as important as our own,
- Communication is a two-way street of giving and taking
- We should be honest on both sides.
- Plus, be opened minded, and ask questions if not too clear.
- Having an understanding of what is been said and watch the tone of voice.
- Do you want me to just listen, or do want me to listen and then help solve problems?
- Are you OK with this?
Let’s try doing something else when there is a pressing problem and it affects our mood. Breathe, breathe, it might be hard, but let’s try. Sometimes we might not be able to communicate but just cut the strings. Sometimes just stepping back and relaxing by taking your mind off of things, the answers could come.
There are specialist mental health and spiritual processes that help to cut the strings of any given circumstance. By reaching out to a professional therapist, counselor, coach, or spiritual healer, you could be guided through the process of cutting the emotional cords which may be keeping you from living the life you desire.