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Coping with Trauma

Every person experiences traumatic events that cause stress; whether it is a coronavirus, plane crash, a traffic incident, or any violent crime, you may feat intense depression and fear or feel numb. Repeated exposure to an incident can overwhelm your mind with stress just as you experience the event firsthand. Its how you deal with it that effects the rest of your life.

Traumatic events can destroy your sense of wellbeing, leaving you helpless and vulnerable in a dangerous world. But there are so many ways to calm your mind, regain your emotional balance, and coping with trauma.

Don’t ignore your feelings

It may seem great, when you avoid your feelings, an emotion like anger or frustration, they do exist, and as you already know, it is hard to stop those emotions.  Instead, ask yourself why are they so intense? Yes, you get angry, but so intensively, and why? So much so, that you could hurt yourself or sadly a loved one, like your child or a beloved family member. Believe me, you will regret that.

Continue giving attention to them or not. Even intense and strong feelings will pass if you simply allow yourself to think about what you feel and why?

  • Be patient and calm with the pace of recovery.
  • Be prepared for difficult and violent emotions.
  • Find your source of belief and strength.
  • Find your purpose for living and for going on (vocation, children, family, or friends).

Re-establish your routine

After the traumatic event, try to get back to your regular routine(s) as soon as possible, it will help you to cope with your trauma, anxiety, and distress. Even if your daily life is disrupted, you can plan a schedule of eating, sleeping, work, spending time with your family and friends.

Utilize a timer or alarm if needed. We seem to space out and loose time.

Put significant life decisions on hold

The big decision of life like about home, work, or family, while traumatized, will make you more depressed  and stressful, and there is a chance of making bad decisions when you are not correctly in your senses. Try to wait for some time until life has settled down and you will be able to think correctly.

Get moving or exercise

Physically, an activity also helps calm your nervous system and helps you move on with the traumatic event.

Trying exercise that is rhythmic and engages your whole body, walking, running, and swimming are an excellent choice to help your mind and body.

Add mindful elements by focusing on your soul, how it feels when you move. Feel the rhythm of your breathing, your feet hitting the ground, or the relaxed feeling of wind on your skin can calm your mind and body.

Mediate, going into your feelings, by taking breaths, closing your eyes, placing the white light of source energy for healing. Your white light could come from anywhere, like the sky or a tree…

Loving yourself is another issue to work on. How do you feel about yourself?

You are your best friend. Look in the mirror, re-introduce your friend and activate your relationship with him or her. Sounds corny, but it works.

Boost your energy and motivate yourself to exercise; start by dancing and moving around. Once you start moving around here and there you will feel more energetic.

Get yourself a proper sleep

After experiencing a traumatic or stressful event it is difficult to get proper sleep. Worries and fears may keep you up late at night, or bad dreams may disturb you.

The following things may help you have a better sleep.

  • Avoid caffeine in the afternoon or evening.
  • Do something relaxing before going to bed.
  • Make your bedroom soothing and quiet.
  • Sleeping heals you inside and out.
  • Do not take addictive sleeping pills.
  • Melatonin could assist, it is a natural medication.
  • Meditation, talking to your spirit guides, or angels.
  • Ask, and it shall be given.

Be kind

Accept a compliment and give one as well. What will it hurt? You will see what it does to others and to you. The receiver will feel like they received a gift. So will you.

Also, it is a way of keeping the flow of a good thing going. You will be surprised at how much better you will feel, Thinking of others, instead of just yourself.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

There are many of us, not just you and me going through this hellish trauma.

Being and living is an example of healing. You made it.

Rejoice in the abundance of being alive. Awaken each morning and have another experience of a new day, to do better, and heal yourself to change into a better person, and make the world a little better each day.

Associate only with inspirational people and self-healers.

Many Blessings.

 

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Coping With Trauma

Every person experiences trauma in different ways. It is different with each of us. Those events that cause stress, whether it is a coronavirus, plane crash, a traffic incident, or any violent crime, you may experience intense depression, fretful  fear, or a feeling of physical numbness.

Repeated exposure to an incident can overwhelm your mind with stress just as if you experience the event again firsthand.

Traumatic events can destroy your sense of safety and peace, leaving you feeling helpless and vulnerable in a dangerous world. But there are so many things that this experience can leave you with.

There is no right or wrong reaction to theses traumatic events.

People usually panic when going thru a traumatic event and react differently to them. You are truly experiencing some things that do not make you feel right, you could feel like you are going crazy, and could definitely use some help.

Don’t ignore your feelings:

It may seem better when you avoid your feelings,  for a short time or be in denial. Do talk to someone about your symptoms. Someone like your doctor who has knowledge of trauma symptoms, or someone like a therapist who has had clients who have suffered with trauma and possesses knowledge of this kind of experience and has been successful in treating trauma victims.

Be patient and calm with yourself and understand that this is part of the recovery.

  •  Know that you will have confused emotions, different thoughts that will make some decisions more confusing. If so, ask yourself why?
  • Try to get back to your daily activities .
  • Find something you enjoy doing.
  • Make life more interesting for yourself.
  • Get involved, doing something you may enjoy, like gardening.
  • Exercising, dancing, running, anything that will rid you of negative energy.
  • Reestablish your routine:
  • Try yoga, meditation, even praying to your creator, angels or whatever, to seek some higher power figure.

After the traumatic event, try to get back to your regular routines as soon as possible it will help you to cope with your trauma like anxiety, stress, paranoia, loneliness, and fear. Do what you must to feel safe again.

Even if your daily life is disrupted you can plan a schedule of eating, sleeping, work, spending time with your family and friends. Doing what you enjoy with friends and even get dog or a cat.

The big decision of life, like buying a home, quitting your job, or leaving family, while still suffering from emotional trauma will make you more depressed and/or stressful, or very angary at yourself or others.  There is a chance of making the wrong choices or decisions when you are not in your right mind. Seek help if you are not feeling yourself after 6 months of suffering with trauma.

Physically, getting involved in an activity also helps calm your nervous system and helps you move on with the traumatic event.

Again, try to exercise in a rhythmic fashion and engage your whole body, walking, running, and swimming are excellent choices to help your mind and body release some of the negative feelings and symptoms.

Add mindful elements by focusing on your mind, body and spirit, how it feels when you move or jump.  Feel the rhythm of your breathing, your feet hitting the ground, or the relaxed feeling of the sun on your skin can also calm your mind and body.

Boost your energy and motivate yourself to exercise. Start by dancing and moving around. Once you start moving around here and there you will feel more energetic.

Get yourself proper sleep:

After experiencing a traumatic or stressful event, it is difficult to have  proper rest or to get to sleep. Worries and fears may keep you up late at night, or bad dreams may disturb you. But getting plenty of sleep, is very healing to your mind, body, and spirit.

The following things can help you have better sleep.

• Avoid caffeine in the afternoon or evening.
• Do something relaxing before going to bed. Breathing exercises, meditations.
• Make your bedroom soothing, quiet, sipping your favorite tea before going to sleep.

Getting into a support group or reading information will help you get more healing ideas. Also call someone who you trust to talk to or someone that you know who has gone through something similar especially if that person is a survivor like you.

 

 

 

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How Do Men Deal With Trauma?

Many of us deal with our sufferings, pain and/ or problems in different ways. If you were raised around males, you will see that they have a different way of dealing and coping with difficult life situations. Or could be, it dependence on how they were told to express themselves as they were growing up.

Have you heard the expression “los hombres no lloran” or “big boys don’t cry”, “You have to take it like a man!” I used to hear my father say that to my brothers repeatedly. They were just children at that time!

Today, I always think, “What did this guy go thru to be such an asshole?”

Human suffering is everywhere in the world around us. We all have experienced untold, hidden trauma like sudden deaths, abuse, bullying, and violence. Men do not talk about the trauma they suffer Why?

It is experienced that men usually don’t burden others with their problems. They dealt with all their issues on their own. In our society, if a man suffered in silence from trauma, he is awarded the badge of honor. Boys usually learn from their fathers.

Fathers tell their sons that crying is for babies and girls only. Although in our society, males are told that they need to be tough, “Quote” “if you don’t stop crying, I will give you something to cry about!” and powerful enough to survive in a man’s world. T

This is one of the many reasons why males suffer In silence.

We usually hear and see bad male behavior like violence, addiction, shootings, aggression, and criminal behavior and make assumptions that it’s a part of nature of a man,

This unspoken pain and suffering from childhood trauma and men is not always talked about. That leads to projecting trauma onto others. If not onto others, hurting themselves by allowing the infections of inner wounds to spread viciously inside and start self-medicating, by turning to alcohol and drugs.

Until we are ready to talk about male trauma, we will continue to set up the next generation of males to fail in their emotional life. Males are struggling day and night with so much failure at a much higher rate than females.

Unfortunately, today, we have many walking wounded men suffering from depression, anxiety, addictions, or other disorders. For most men talking about their pain and trauma is seen as a weakness.

It is a time to end the trauma suffering by raising our boys to connect with their hearts, give them confidence and permission to share their pain and feelings with their loved ones, or someone they trust., allowing themselves to talk openly about male trauma and seek help from available supports groups, talk therapy as well as other mental health professionals..

We all need someone who can understand our pain, it’s OK to cry and to share our feelings. As Human beings, we all should take a step to reduce the stigma for males to talk, cry, and heal themselves for the sake of our future male children.