I had a client who has gained so much weight during his young life. Here, why? He was abandoned by his mom when he was 4 months old. His dad became mentally ill after his wife left. Leaving the baby to be raised by someone who was too ill to really take care of the baby. He was left with a babysitter who would place him in a dark closet when he was bad. Dad came to pick him up one day, a little early, and she brought him out of the closet. Dad never took him back there.
Dad did try his best he could, but it was too hard for dad, who had to work to support himself and pay to babysit for the baby.
When the baby was now 4 years old, dad could not effort to have a babysitter, he worked graveyard. He left my client at home by himself. Taught my client to dial 911 or his dad’s sister who lives a two-hour drive from their house, just in case my client, needed to talk to someone.
My client said he did call a time or two, when he got scared at night, thinking someone was outside his window, and his Annite, did make him feel better and he fell asleep with her on the line. He’d wake up and she was still there. Knowing that he felt safe.
My client said he felt hungry all the time. Now he alone answered his own question of why? He needed to fill his emptiness and depression he filled it with food. Playing games on the commuter and watching movies, was his way out to feed the loneliness. He stated, he was not physically active. He knew this was one of the other reasons he would gain more weight. He knew he had habits to change.
This is what we came up with.
- As a child, he was abandoned by his mom. He needed and desired motherly love, which he noticed at school when moms would stay for a program, he wished he too could be held, hugged, and showed love by a mom. He never had that but desired it.
- His father finally got better and was more affectionate to him. But dad, later met a lady, who had a nephew, who later, forcefully, sexually molested him.
- My client felt that he was just eating his life away. He felt very happy when he could eat a large meal, he just ate whatever he wanted. Mainly, hamburgers and fries, after school meals. He could drink a liter of pop in one sitting.
- My client suffered from bullying in school he stated kids made fun of his weight.
- My client filled much of his emotional needs with food. In which he had already developed, type two diabetes, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, In which he could develop cardiovascular disease.
Now, understanding his childhood trauma, he has lost 67 lbs. to this date but says he has to remember at times, not always, why he feels so hungry. He is finally feeling better about himself. He has more friends and better self-esteem.
His next goal is to find a girlfriend, get married and start a family.
Many Blessing to my Client and all those who have a problem with weight and that they heal from emotional reasons.