I had a client who tried in many ways to give his wife all he knew how to try to make her happy. Later in their relationship, he discovered that she had suffered violent and traumatic traumas. Without knowing, and being a musician himself, he gave her the greatest gift she has ever received- music, where she could write her songs and heal from her traumatic past by composing music and singing. 
Little did I know that writing your songs, and singing them, was another form of healing. In my research, I have discovered that cultural modalities play a very important role in helping to recover from trauma. I like Mexican music. I always used music, as a motivational tool, when my house needed to be cleaned, laundry needed to be done, and clothes folded. I used the broom to sweep and dance with it. It has made such tasks, fun.
In my research, I understood that individuals suffering from PTSD used sports and games to cope with their trauma. I also learned that poem writing, writing your story, writing and singing your story, or learning to play an instrument is a way of healing and coping from trauma.
Children created musical compositions to assist them with their feelings of feeling unsafe at school. Music therapists and music programs along with the arts programs in school or the community, get very little recognition as a mechanism for recovery for children’s trauma and adults as well.
But despite all the positive and effective positive examples of art and music therapies, there is a need for recognition of these evidence-based coping styles. These programs are not given the credit needed to be implemented in school programs.
These programs are designed to reduce stress, improve coping with trauma together with crisis situations, by drawing and special techniques along with musical songwriting and singing, together with relaxing the mind, body, and spirit with music.
A bright light turned on in my head, karaoke, sing-along songs, is a very healing way of coping with trauma as well. Even if you cannot carry a tune, you can do this in the privacy of your home or bedroom. Look for your favorite sing-along songs.
Children also use the karaoke machines and sing their favorite sing-along songs. Make it a karaoke night. Have the children pick the songs they would enjoy singing to. There are so many. Your children will love it and at the same time healing with songs will become some of the favorite ways of feeling much better and heal from almost anything.
Doesn’t this make a lot of sense? It’s a way of releasing your feelings, your negative energy, it’s a fun way of healing, you may find yourself crying and releasing heartfelt pain. At the same time feeling much better, a little sad maybe, so sing another song with more pep in it.
Check on your emotional state of mind. You will see and feel different. Remember, it might take a couple of songs to write or sing, next thing you know you’re feeling good.
You will wake up and you just could feel some relief in your song and be free of some unexplained pain. Continue doing what you are doing to heal the suffering too. It’s a beautiful feeling.
Please do not look for the pain and suffering, because it will come back if you stop singing or songwriting. If you are feeling some sadness and some disappointment in your life, singing is just a tone away.
Voice your feelings and turn them into songs. I know this artist who turned into a famous singer, singing about her traumas and became very famous and popular singing about her losses in her life. She recounted them in songs and now she is famous and making a lot of money as well.
Many Blessings and healings from your song. God Bless.