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The Effects of Unresolved Trauma

There is proper treatment for trauma victims. Also, they don’t have to live with unresolved trauma. Unresolved trauma can follow us throughout life.

Trauma imprints on our mind and body for an extended time. But in some cases, it is observed that many people forget about traumatic episodes from their past. Nonetheless, that trauma has an impact on our actions for the rest of our lives. Unresolved trauma affects us in many ways as we respond to life circumstances with fear, phobias, stress, low self-esteem, and many more emotional responses, and physical illnesses.

Our many habits are developed from our childhood experiences and into our adulthood. If we have had a traumatic childhood, then it follows us into adulthood.

We could think that we had a perfect childhood, but in reality, you just forgot your trauma. Yet, your body didn’t forget. And it demonstrates a clear impact on your physical and psychological state of mind when in adulthood, if not at an earlier young age, like in your teens.

For example, one of my friends lost her parents in her young childhood. At that tender age, she faced the trauma of losing her parents. Whenever she remembers those emotions, she suddenly goes into a daydreaming state due to that emotional stress.

That’s when her psychologist realized that whenever she feels the emotional stress associated with the loss of her parents, she falls asleep for up to 2 to 5 minutes.

Through hypnosis, they were able to determine that this action occurs when she gets herself in a stressful position, remembering her parent’s death.

To divert that feeling, she suddenly slept so that her mind adapts that action and repeats it whenever needed.

Chronic Depression

In this situation, the person seems to be affected by the pain which he endures in their antiquity and it imprints in the patient’s mind as an emotionally traumatic incident, whenever he is targeted on that particular body part unless he is cured of that pain or disease he/she still feels that pain because in the past it was very hard to endure.

Nightmares

A person who is dealing with this situation often sees horrifying, disturbing nightmares regarding this traumatic event. He may face sleeping disorders or restlessness during the whole day. This person could be afraid of going to sleep. If this is happening, please get help. Things could get much worse.

Hypersensitive

A patient who suffers from any traumatic event may become quite hypersensitive towards their relationships, social bonds, friends, family, and could look like a typical attention seeker.

If you suffer from traumatic hypersensitivity, you might not understand what is happening. You know you are being irrational, and you might ask, “What is happing to me?” Please get some help or talk to others who understand exactly what you are going through. Join a support group. Get some help.

Anger Issues

The most common cause in anger issues is an increase in aggression level that disturbs your social circle. And you can act violently when this kind of response doesn’t really make sense. You may not notice your behavior, but you can hurt many precious loved ones and friends. Why are you so angry? Talk to somebody. GET HELP!

Look within yourself. You can make up anything that makes you feel better. You could justify, lie to yourself, but look deep inside and find out what is going on. I would get so mad and angry. I could have hurt somebody. Believe me, you could hurt somebody. You will regret it. it could also be your own child. Sad, right?

Feeling Isolated or Lonely

In this situation, you might feel like no one loves or cares about you. You could think, “They don’t even know that I exist.” So, you want to isolate and avoid social gatherings. You feel that your presence is an imposition among other people. Please get help.

Panic Attacks

Panic attacks are the most disturbing situation. You will have a hard time trying to sidestep this situation easily. Some of the simple ways to get rid of panic attacks are meditation, breathing exercises, and increasing your willpower. Get into yoga or similar types of soul connection groups.

Having Suicidal Thoughts

Danger! Danger! That’s one of the most dangerous situations. It impairs your thinking power and can lead you to end your life. This is definitely not the answer. STOP!!

In my opinion, one who is suffering from unresolved trauma must seek out expert advice.

Not to waste time thinking about how to resolve this on your own. Because if it exceeds the acute level, it can destroy us, and all who love and depend on us. I wanted to try this at one time. I had my kids, and I thought, “Who was going to finish raising them?” They had nobody, and the trauma they would have suffered would have been devastating for my children. How selfish of me!

Please get help.

Talk to an expert and call upon your spirit guides and angels.

Many blessings to you.

 

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Being Successful After Suffering Trauma

People usually think that after trauma, their life will be finished. But that is not true. With the help of strong will-power, you can be successful after traumatic stress. This article will tell you how to be successful after trauma and achieve something bigger after trauma.

Education:

To move from the process of trauma to growth, you should first educate yourself about the trauma.

Let’s take an example, many of us believe that we are safe from endangering diseases; bad things only happened in other places but cannot harm us in any way. Unfortunately, none of that was true. Now, we must change our perceptions and figure out what to believe instead of false perceptions.

Emotional Regulation

A person should be in the right frame of mind to do any learning. The first step is to start managing negative emotions such as anxiety, guilt, and anger, which can be easily done by shifting the kind of thinking that takes you to those feelings.

Instead of focusing on your losses, failures, uncertainties, a try to think about your success, consider best-case possibilities, and reflect all those success factors on your company’s resources, and think carefully that as a person, what can you do for a big achievement.

Disclosure

This is the part of the ongoing process in which you talk about different scenarios of what has happened and is happening; its effects short- and long-term, personal, and professional. This kind of thing helps everyone make sense of the trauma and turn thoughts into productive reflections.

If you’re helping someone to talk about what it’s been like to experience this crisis, asking many questions can seem like you are more curious rather than concerned. However, it is important to care about others, make sure they want to discuss this information.

It’s best to focus on how others take your concern and what kinds of words are correct to use.

Narrative Development

It is the step in which you have to produce the narrative story about the trauma and the reflection of afterwards to accept the chapters already written and imagine crafting the next ones in a meaningful way. Your traumatic story and the stories of people you’re helping can and should be about a traumatic past that leads to a better and bright future.

Service

People do better after the process of trauma if they find work that benefits others and helps people close to them or their broader community or victims of events similar to the ones they have endured. So, help others who are having similar problems, who are facing difficulty in overcoming similar anxiety disorders. This can give you a sense of growth, a satisfying, and peaceful life.

 

Be patient while in the process of dealing with trauma. Those who are practicing in this field know that timing is important. Growth is a long procedure  and it takes time.

However, when you and your other traumatized individuals are ready, it is worth the effort. Let’s promise to ourselves that we learn from the crisis and do something productive.

Many Blessings to you.

 

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How did Christ (as in the bible book Christ) manage his trauma?

Speaking about trauma, how about Christ? I was just at church and since it will be Christmas soon, I started thinking how about Christ according to the bible “Christ” suffered also due to the fact that he knew he was going to be sacrificed.

I remember reading Christ praying to God about does he have to go through this? John 2:4. Jesus knew his hour was coming.

Was there any way He could be spared?  John 1:29

Christ prayed to be given the strength and courage to go through what was needed from him. John 10:17, Luke 22:44

Christ experienced all the pain and suffering that a human could go through. He cried for his friend whom he felt love for (Lazarus). Upon coming to Lazarus’ home and finding out that Lazarus was dead.    John 11:35. Jesus cried.

Jesus sweat blood, being in agony as he prayed, as He asked for strength, Luke 22: 43,44.

When an individual feels compromised, the intelligent sensory system upsets our adrenaline, and organs are charged with a hurtful substance and goes into high alarm, like when Jesus suffered for 3 hours hanging on the cross. It was very agonizing for him. There were so many wounds that he finally died.

Scriptural Advocate

As indicated by the Worldwide Association of Scriptural Advisors, biblical guiding concentrates cautiously, to find those regions where territories of the Christians who insist on the standards of the sacred text. Figuring out how to be affectionate towards all and show love to one another,

  • Through Jesus, we learned to love one another. John 13:34
  •  For whosoever who finds me, finds life and shall find favor of the Lord. Proverbs 8:35
  • Jesus is the same yesterday, and today and forever. Hebrews 13:8
  • God himself, is the one who heals me.  Exodus 15:26
  • My Lord restores in health and heals my wound. Jeremiah 30:17
  • By his wounds, I am healed. Isaiah: 53:5
  • My Lord heals all my diseases. Psalm 103:3

In the Book of scriptures, we can get help to being recuperated from traumatic functions, it gives us hope.

We live in a reality, where we are given hope as we include a greater spiritual power, which in every way you can hold on to hope. The Bible’s book of scriptures will cover you with its conclusions.

The bible’s reliability is a shield. Sometimes, it is hard to believe in the simplest things as having faith, hope, and love. We all need to have a purpose. somethings that give a sense of purpose. Jesus’ purpose was to die for our sins, John 3:16.

Our purpose is to make this world a better place for us and those around us. Being examples. Healing ourselves from sadness and depression. Let’s do something to change our environment, the place that we live, and how we live if we are not satisfied. Remember, you are in control of what happens to you. Believe in a higher power. Your higher self.

Learn a new way of praying, like meditation. Examine opportunities for the vibrational resonance that might be found in yoga, dancing, or doing something that will change your mood. Try to be more joyous, happy, or at least content.

Try spiritual enlightenment.

Seek to meet your life guides or angels and talk to your higher self. In fact, try connecting to www.abraham-hicks.com. I guarantee you’ll enjoy listening to her. Ester will bring you joy.

 

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Connections Between Bullying and Trauma

Bullying is a kind of internal aggression from an individual. It can cause various disorders. If the bullying behavior is repeated over time it can lead to severe trauma. Bullying actions are like giving threats and using your physical power to bully others or somehow teasing others.

Both trauma and bullying relate like children who are traumatized at the age of teens can bully others or could be bullied by someone. The bully is never ignored or acceptable in our society. A person who bullies becomes unamiable and lacks hope that this behavior can change. Continuous bullying can lead to the following disorders:

Psychological Disorder

Psychological damage is the result of distress bullying. Mental disability can cause emotional integration. It involves a strong feeling of stress, depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, loss of confidence.

Bullying can alter the level of stress hormones. The victim’s mind is full of thoughts of gloomy complexion the person been bullied. That individual can become unsociable always wanting to be alone, Sadness can affect the rest of that person’s life, self-esteem, behavior, being irritated all the time, unable to interact with others, and more to come as adults. But will learn to cope with bullying as individuals learn more coping skills.

Bulling and trauma cause self-esteem issues, feelings of guilt, shame, and difficulty in speaking, feeling incapable of accomplishments, thoughts of not deserving of life, difficulty making choices, and being indecisive. “I am worth nothing”.

The most bullying environment for children is at school, and academic institutions are spreading rumors of that child. The child starts missing school and stops going to the cafeteria. Appearing very afraid of going to school, is sad all the time, taking no interest in organized activities. And students who do not want to study he/she begins to perform poorly at school and school activities will be unable to defend him/her self from those who are bullying.

The child responsible for bullying others also affects their interest in bullying others no more concentration in their academic records. They gain more popularity because of bullying others. Which is like an award to them.

The academic management should take precautions in these bullying trauma cases to improve our society. Teach kids about bullying in school classes.

Final Thoughts

I know bullying is such an immoral act and causes a severe impact on individuals’ mental and physical states of mind and trying to cope with the trauma of been bullied.

We may have to seek professional help for our children and those who have been affected by such a traumatizing act of injustice.

Many individuals attempt suicide due to traumas from bullying. And now they are many consequences regarding this traumatic bully situation in schools or institutions. Nowadays, especially children who are suffering from this kind of mistreatment in school, have many resources, in school or at home.

Telling someone about these situations can bring relief most of all peace of mind. There is always a lot of talk about situations like this and help is just a phone call away. This too is getting help for the bully as well. What is happening to this child that he/she has to cause pain to another.

So, talking to someone will bring help to that person who is doing the bullying as well. Doing something or saying something to a trusted adult or parents, the first step to being safe.

 

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How can Trauma turn you into a better person?

You look all round you as you step out into society, there’s people who are talking to themselves, some yelling out loud to themselves, you know that they could have a mental illness of some sort.

Other people who’s faces you see are frowning. But then you see children, they are laughing, playing with something and giggling. Aww… to be free again like that, without a worry of how are we going to be paying the rent and bills. What is making us so unhappy? There are a lot of people out there who are not happy. They are not even content!

Everyone prays that they will be able to avoid the worst things of life, like accidents, illnesses, loss of a loved one, or loss of their job. Fortunately, a few of us will get through life just fine.

According to PTSD research, 75 percent of people will experience a traumatic event in their lifetime.

These traumatic events will create significant pain. A near miss of a life loss, can also be a powerful push for positive change. Was I spared to do something better with my life? Is there a reason, some of us are not crippled by life’s experiences.

Post-traumatic growth can be transformative. Many people I interviewed for my book told me that despite the physical pain and the daily struggles they faced, their lives were unquestionably are better today than before their traumatic experiences. Why? Do you know?

The following steps should be included to overcome trauma:

  • You show respect to yourself for doing better than expected.
  • Don’t let their feelings prevent you from living a better life.
  • You can help by encouraging another person that their reactions to trauma are normal.
  • Offer practical support and understanding.
  • Stop thinking about negative things. It takes effort and focus for this.
  • Honor yourself and others who you know are successful without using drugs and alcohol to heal their pain .
  • Your trauma experience does not define you!

What is the best therapy for Trauma?

Traditional Therapeutic Approaches to Help You Heal from Trauma  

Pharmacotherapy is the use of medications to manage disruptive trauma reactions. I truly, do not believe in taking medication. I do understand it could come in handy as a temporary method to combat overwhelming feelings. I would not use it myself, unless my life stayed in chaos for 6 mouths.

  • Behavior Therapy.
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
  • Talk Therapy
  • Psychodynamic Therapy.
  • Simply talking to others who have succeeded with healing trauma at group therapy (you will be able to associate with others who are successful and make new friends).

Does Trauma make you a better person?

Traumatic events can agitate us to the core, leaving us in shambles both mentally, physically, and emotionally  But stop thinking negatively. Psychologists are also finding that traumatic actions can change us into more robust, better individuals.

How do you healthily deal with Trauma?

Following are some ways to take care of yourself while you’re getting over a trauma:

  • Become aware of your environment make it safe for you.
  • Be able to forgive yourself and others, if possible, if not “be willing to try”
  • Learn to let go of what no longer serves you.
  • Self awareness that you do not have to be a victim.
  • You are a survivor.
  • Take it one day at a time.
  • Eat healthy, nutritious meals and snacks.
  • Schedule time for nature walks, exercise, dance, jump up and down to circulate your energy.
  • Listen to your body and learn its signals to depression, headaches, ask yourself why?
  • Attend support groups, church, or go somewhere safe to meet others.
  • Stay away from bars or clubs.
  • Consider talking about your feelings with someone you trust.

Remember you are not alone, look around you, there are happy people around you, they are in a place where they can help you and others.

Many of us have had some sort of trauma.

We are survivors.

Go and help the children who will soon become adults. Volunteer to save them and show them that they will be alright and so will you.

 

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How does trauma affect your love in a relationship?

We all have this fantasy, that we can find a healthy relationship. To be fall in love, and be loved back. To find someone we can be very compatible with, someone who we can share our deepest secrets, yet not be judge.  Get to know each other, enjoying each other’s company, excited to be with one another at the end of the day. Live happily ever after. I have seen couples that seem to be that way, but later I find out It was not always that way. Realistically, it takes a lot of work, hardship and more work to stay in a relationship. What if we suffered a painful or violent relationship? Now it is affecting your way of life, your children, now what kind of a decision will you be making? What if you have sub-consciously attracted another abusive relationship?

Whether the trauma was physical, sexual, or emotional, the impact can show up in a host of relationship issues. Survivors often believe deep down that they can’t trust anyone. Intimacy is dangerous, and for them, a real loving attachment is an impossible dream. Many tell themselves they are flawed, not good enough, and unworthy of love. I was always told “I was broken”. I felt like “yes, that is so so true.” How can I be fixed? Am I doomed?

Living through traumatic events can result in expectations of danger within new or old relationships. Survivors may feel vulnerable and confused about what is safe, and therefore it may be not easy to trust others, even those they trusted in the past. Trauma could also bring an illness called “Co-dependent”.

Your most passionate relationship might be a trauma bonding, what is this?

A trauma bond is essentially the process through which you begin to confuse abusive behavior for love. I remember I had a client that was from another country and was taught that if the man did not “hit” you, he did not love you”.

It took some time to explain, but that here in the United States there are laws that protects people, men or women from violence against each other. Also I explained how dangerous that type of thinking would be for her female daughters. Took some work, but now my client is married and in a non-violent relationship.

Trauma bounding is similar to Stockholm Syndrome, in which a person is held captive and starts having feelings of trust or affection for the person who has captured them and held that person against their will. This kind of survival strategy survival can also occur in a relationship called Trauma Bonding; it can occur when a person is in a relationship with a narcissist.  A person, with exaggerated feeling of self-importance, lacks empathy, arrogant behavior and sense of entitlement. WOW! Does’ this sound like an on of my ex’s or what!

Your close relationships, and especially your partner, should be a positive addition in your life. Of course, there will be times, you are  going to argue with your partner. You’re never going to be completely happy with him or her all of the time. Still, your interactions with them should generally be more  positive and should not leave you in an emotional, mental or fragile crisis, feeling worthless or depressed or scared for your safety.

Trauma bonding isn’t loved. Many other dark things have been combined with love but not love itself.

To heal from a trauma bond, you may need to find professional help. You will most possibly need to cut off contact with that abusive person, focus instead on resolving the existing issues in your life. Get help , if you feel you cannot live without that person. You could be suffering from Co-Dependency, number one symptom…Denial

Determine what attracts you to them in the first place, find the reason why your relationship bond didn’t work, point out the red flags that you’d like to be aware of in the future. Address any sub-conscious issues about your love that you might not realize you should have. For example, if you had an upset parent, you could face neglect with ideal love. Sometimes this came from unstable parenting.

Children whose families do not provide consistent safety, comfort, and protection may develop coping methods that allow them to survive and function from day today. They may be overly sensitive to others’ moods, always watching to solve what the elders near them are feeling and how actually they will behave to others.

Can you find a healthy relationship? Yes… you will mentally and emotionally know when you are ready. Do not loose hope. I felt healed enough to find my happily ever after. I know that you can too. Healing IS possible. May God Bless!

 

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How to Heal from Childhood Trauma

Healing from childhood trauma is not easy. As an adult however, it is possible to heal. If you want to get over your past trauma, you first need to understand how it affects you. If you experience trauma in childhood, you will be having trouble in keeping up with the daily routines of life.

Just deciding what to wear to work is very stressful to start off the day. That’s if you can keep a job. Childhood trauma, as I have mentioned before, effects almost all aspects of our lives. This effects how you work with others. Being intimate with your significant other, friends, co-workers, and authority figures. There could be many more problems that we have not touched on yet, all depending on your experience.

There are some techniques from which you can recover from the trauma of childhood.

  • Distance yourself from toxic people:

Not that you are religious, but we do give the bible some respect. It says in     1 Corinthians chapter 15 verse 33 that “Bad associations spoil good habits”.

There is a saying in Spanish that my Mama Luna would repeat to me frequently when I was young, “Dime con quien te yuntas y te dire quien eres.” Tranlation -“Tell me who you hang around with, and I will describe what kind of person you are.”

Healing needs a peaceful and nurturing environment to grow in. If those whom you choose to associate with are using drugs, drinking, cannot hold jobs, lie, cheat, steal, and manipulate you, you are associating with toxic people who are poisonous to you and your healing process.

  • Healing, cannot take place in a toxic environment.

Things to help you heal from childhood trauma is to remove toxic encounters in life. Many things and everything that you can control or change that is toxic in your life need to be removed. “May God give you the courage to change the things you can and the wisdom to know the difference. (Sound familiar? It’s part of the Serenity Prayer). I use this prayer to help me remember that I cannot control other stupid people.

When I am not feeling safe or comfortable.  I can only control how I feel and how I want to my environment to be.

  • Learn self-regulation

Developing simple mindfulness techniques like breathing, relaxation, and meditation can help you realize you can make things better.  Meditation and yoga can calm your mind, enhance your life physically and emotionally.

  • Sometimes it is difficult to sleep. Sleeping gives the body time to heal the mind.

Avoid caffeine during the day. That includes sodas, some contain caffeine. Drink plenty of water, mix in some lemon to add flavor. Plus, drinking lemon water is good for the gut and lowers belly fat.

  • Seeking support from those you trust.

Sometimes it’s not possible to heal from childhood trauma alone. If you want to find your way back to harmony, start by seeking support from those you trust.

  • Eat!

Do you remember when you were a child, seeing someone get very grumpy when they or you were just hungry? In my personal experience, I would start getting angry or frustrated because I was hungry. But I did not realize that’s, what it was.

  • Start getting in touch with your body. Listen to it. How?

By eating healthy and at the regular times, it gives your brain the fuel needed to heal. Minimize your symptoms of anger, anxiety and depression by eating a well-balanced nutritious diet.

Sometimes your body is trying to tell you to get some rest, when your nose is getting stuffed, your throat is getting scratchy, you just might be coming down with a cold. Listen to your body symptoms, it is trying to tell you something. Are you taking your vitamins?  Our body does not always get the nutrients it needs from our food and vegetables.

  • Socialize

Trauma forces you to isolate yourself sometimes. When you are healing, try to engage with more people. Explore new things, join other support groups, you may meet others who have gone through what you are going through right now and they will understand. It can give you the good association you needed in this time to heal. You will start to feel, that you are now in safe surroundings. But please, continue pay attention to your body signals, or your gut. If it does not feel right, it may not be.

Considering the physical and mental health issues that occur alongside childhood trauma, it is very important to find an experienced medical specialist or therapist that can help you with your physical, mental, and emotional healing. It might take more than one specialist.

Some specialists or therapists can use the inner-child process to get in connection with and spending some time with your inner child and comfort him or her.  Reassure your inner child that now you are in a loving and safer place.

You can resolve the hurts of childhood that lives inside you, by having your healer use some of those methods to heal yourself.

Allow yourself to recognize all the techniques you have used to keep yourself safe. Be real with yourself while recognizing all the coping strategies that you have learned. They may not be working in your best interests.

The incidents and things that happened in our childhood shape us forever.  But remember to let go of the past, love yourself and forgive yourself unconditionally and remember that you are not alone.

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How to Stop Ongoing Trauma and Abuse

This is a delicate subject. Let me tell you why, because when there is abuse and its someone else abusing you whether it be physically, due to violence, verbal abuse, as in emotional abuse, or any other violation toward you or a loved one. Its pretty scary, abuse is abuse. Especially when it effects your everyday peace or regular way of life.

Let’s call what it is. ABUSE! There are some steps you will need to take for yourself. Be honest to yourself. Try to identify the conditions, or the experiences that are true about your life. Try to be as real as you can about your life. How safe are your children? How safe are you? What can you do about it? Do you feel out of control of your own life and safety?

Deciding what to do is one the most difficult things to consider. Believe me, I know. One of the common characteristics of a person who has experienced emotional injury has the tendency to want to be “alone.” “I can do this by myself.” “I will trust in the Lord and the Lord only.” And, “I will not reach to any other human being for help,” “no one needs to know.” It’s embarrassing and you do not want to appear to be weak, or “wrong.”

That sounds like a step of faith, and for some people it is. But these words are sometimes words that come out of someone who wants to avoid anything that might be threatening, fearful, may have lost faith, or touch with reality. Sometimes, we feel like we have no support, or encouragement, and understanding.

My story. I was married to a very abusive man. On top of that he drank frequently, but not enough to fall asleep due to extreme drinking.  But he drank, I knew I was going to get a beating. I was afraid for my children. I too felt alone. I had family, but did not want them to get involved because I was afraid, he could hurt them too. He said so, and I believed him. I felt so hopeless.

One night, he came home drunk, and beat me.

The next day, I went to work and my co-worker saw my face. “Why do you stay with that man?” I was afraid of him. My sweet and understanding co-worker took me to the hospital.

He had broken my nose, cracked my skull.  I looked at myself in the mirror in the ER. I also had a black eye, it was swollen. Couldn’t see too well out of it.

I was a J. W. back then, and very religious.  Anyway, I left him the next day. But I could not do it alone. The doctor stated he felt I was suffering from “Battered Wife Syndrome.”

Back then, doctors we not required to report these incidents to the police.  But he did ask me, “Why was I still with this person?” “Do I not care what will happen to my Kids, if this man kills me?” “Who is going to love them and care for them, if something happens to me?” I went home and thought about this.

Battered Wife Syndrome is a pattern of signs and symptoms displayed by a woman who has suffered persistent intimate partner violence. Whether it is psychologically, physically, or sexual violence from her partner. It is classified in the ICO-9 as Battered Person Syndrome. But is not in the DSM-5 diagnosis book as a sub- category of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

My friend who took me to the hospital helped me. I owed her my life. She gave me the courage to call the police and we stayed at her house. The next day, my friend helped me get a “restraining order.” He could not come within 500 feet of me.  I was finally, safe!

What can you do to stop this abuse?

  • First call the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Hot Line 1-800-799-7233 (safe)

Open 24 hours, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

  • Get yourself and/or your children to a safe place. Other resources can take you to a “women’s safe house.” Call 911 this helps tremendously, because documentation is extremely important.
  • Very soon after- get help through the Department of Health and Welfare. They can help with the basic’s necessities of daily life.
  • They can also refer you to professional assistance or a therapist for your PTSD. You will later be aware how you will benefit from this.
  • Take your time to get your zest for empowerment for you and your children
  • Join as many support groups as you can and stay with the ones that make you feel good. Look for support groups in your area.

It will be an enormous help for you to be able to get together with others who know exactly what you’re going through and who have already discovered ways of responding to it.

We have confidence in you. You can make a difference in peoples lives. We are here to tell others that there is hope.

 

 

 

 

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How does trauma affect teachers, caregivers, and life coaches?

As a person who cares about others and work in a social workers position. I worked with the Chronically Mentally ill for over 20 years. As I talked to my clients and they told me their stories, I felt compassion for them. I became a case manger when I first started working for a mental health institution.

I was involved in making sure my clients saw their doctors and monitored their medications.

At that time, all who wanted to come in everyday and wanted to be   involved in a  program, where they could socialize with others who suffered mental illnesses as well and would attend if their symptoms would flaring up. This helped to get more help as needed, or be around people who understood their symptoms. Even thou trauma is not a mental illness, it could lead to mental illness.

Traumatic minds often accelerate their emotions outwardly that affect the people around them. Think about the person who’s perpetually dealing with traumatic people. who at times are angary, depressed, and feeling  everyone is a threat.

How does trauma affect teachers, caregivers, and life coaches?

Ultimately, they are affected by this. Specially those who spend an average day with them, trying to heal them with different therapies, activities and methods. They always try to recoup with your stress points and help them to navigate those heavy emotions that at times, disappoints the care provider.

It directly affects the minds of teachers as well these daily consulting meeting draining  their mind, makes them exhausted shattering their thoughts with their trauma statements that are really an indurate work to deal with them this type of trauma is called secondary trauma that transfers from a traumatic patient to towards consulting, councilors, life coaches or teachers and care takers of the elderly.

They are the ones who directly get exposed to traumatic patients. And they spend most of the time with them by taking care of them through all kinds of sessions and enduring their every kind of behavior that may affect their own lives.

If you live with a person who is facing trauma issues.  You are the person who is directly involve in their surroundings most of the time.  God forbid, they could harm you or express their anger due to these factors that make them feel devastated and stressful at the moment that you just happen to be there at the wrong time.

After completing any therapy sessions with your client. you go home and the discussions in  session you had with your client, keeps coming into your mind.

Especially if you feel you could of done something different to assist them more if the discussion was suidicidal ideation. this keeps revolving around and around in your thoughts “Did this action, stop that thought of suicide?

if you did not feel that you found a particular technique to diminishing that thought. It’s going to change into depression and affect your mental health poorly and your peace of mind. As professionals we too need to take care of ourselves.

It is something we sometimes do not think for ourselves, talking to another professional when we are coming down with depression or a thought just are not able to shake. Please remember you are human after all too.

Once my friend told me, she’s an active life coach and teacher at a trauma society school. She told me how she got affected after listening to a patient story of trauma; she felt numb for a couple of hours after listening to that horrifying child assault story, and its keep regulating in her mind for many days. And she became more conservative to her kids due to that session with the victim.

This one of the experiences of a secondary trauma. And no doubt there are many more.

Today 80% of consulting professionals, teachers, life coaches all type of careers in health care are  experiencing this unstable situation.

This rapidly growing numbers of hospital authorities are giving resources to these professional consultant’s, teachers and caregivers to survive with these issues. Many trainings, workshops are scheduled worldwide to receive the healings of these secondary trauma effects

 

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Hypnosis works for the traumatized individual

Have you ever driven to your destination and you do not remember how you got there? Sometimes you place something someplace and minutes later you do not remember placing it there? It could sound like you are starting to get forgetful. Hypnosis works for the traumatized individual and it just could be that nowadays, during this time in our lives, financial problems, personal problems, we could just be overwhelmed with just living our lives.

When driving, you automictically placed yourself under hypnosis. you did not realize you could do that.

Hypnosis is very effective in the treatment of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).  When you are hypnotized, make sure this person is a certified experienced hypnotic therapist. Ask the right questions.

  •  Are you certified with the State?
  • Do you keep with up the required state qualifications?
  •  Have you worked with people who have suffered trauma?
  • What is your success rate?
  • Make sure you like that person and do you trust him/her?
  • It is important for you to feel comfortable, in order for this method to work.

It can be an effective treatment for traumatized people. It helps to reduce anxiety, stress disorders, and other illnesses that disturb regular life. Hypnotherapy is one of the best ways to control or balance your past, present, and even your future so that you can move forward in your life.

Individuals who have experienced a traumatic event like an accident, disaster, or any loved one’s death, or other traumatic experience that makes the world around you FEEL like an unsafe environment.

Hypnotherapy cannot remove traumatic events. But it helps you to think about what has happened in a different way. You could keep the experience to alert you, and ease the pain.

Hypnotherapy allows individuals to openly understand the incident,  process it, and express or help with the understanding of the negative beliefs of the personal behavior patterns that are stored until you or your body and mind can handle the incident.

For example, when I was 4 years old, I was raped and left at my favorite park and placed on the merry-go-round.

I was wrapped in a towel and left to die.  I survived and was in the hospital for a long time. I have had some sexual issues in life and could not understand why.

My body, who knew and remembered the tragedy, but somehow knew I could not handle it, and so stored itself in some parts of my body unbeknownst to me, and I am so grateful that my being was aware and looking out for me.

My guides, angels, and spiritual family knew I had a higher calling and protected me so that I could make it to the right time and place in this life.

I went on a training mission to keep and update my Hypnosis State Certification, we had to practice on one another. During one of those practices, I volunteered to be hypnotized. That’s when my body decided I was ready for the download and realized what had happened to me when I was 4, and now it made sense why I had been placed in recovery care until I was 5.

With the help of a skilled hypnotherapist, actual events can be examined. Any negative behaviors or beliefs can be treated. Skilled hypnosis therapy can help access information and data that is stored in the physical body and the subconscious.

There are many resources a skilled hypnotherapist can help with, you just need to find the right one. That hypnotherapist can hand you the needed tools, resources, and support information, to help the release process and enable you to express yourself and make a positive change.

Usually, traumatized individuals avoid gatherings around them. Individuals also avoid abuse, violent behaviors, etc. The purpose of avoidance is to distance oneself from trauma, but note that this also separates you from deeply connecting to others because trauma is present in our bodies and minds, which cannot be placed at ease without treatment.

In hypnotherapy, the individuals are provided with a chance to scream louder, defend themselves, push away the person or weapon, and be able to tell a trusted person what happened.

This experience can help us or other individuals to heal and move on in his/her (our) life.

It has been suggested that hypnosis may help to ease the traumatic event. Hypnotherapy reduces the symptoms of anxiety, depression, and removes any negative psychological impact. It helps to control negative experiences of life and helps individuals to take control of their power.

You are not alone in this journey. You hold the keys to achievement, knowledge, and control of your life. So continue to SURVIVE!

Continue to find your zest for life and it will return. Please learn to love yourself. For you, I, and many others are survivors.

WE ARE NOT ALONE!