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Unresolved Trauma is Killing You

In my coaching practice I work with women who struggle with unresolved trauma that extends back in time, sometimes trauma they endured from their earliest age. If you have traumatic memories locked away in dark recesses of your mind and hidden inside your body, this unresolved trauma is killing you.

This is an innate survival instinct. It’s as if your higher aware self realizes that if you had to deal with the pain from these adverse childhood experiences (ACE) head-on, you may not survive the process, and at the very least, it may affect the rest of your life so dramatically, your life may crumble all around you, jeopardizing your survival.

A client is attracted to or referred to my practice because they are suffering the consequences of repressing unresolved childhood trauma. While my clients may look like high-functioning adults on the surface, the unresolved traumatic wounds, which though they are hidden from the surface, continue to fester and infect the area in the mind or the body where they are hidden from conscious view.

The more the hidden wound remains ignored, the more the out-of-sight the more septic it becomes. It grows and spreads its toxic poison throughout the body, and it will surface somewhere as a symptom. When unresolved trauma expresses itself, it may show up in the form of disease symptoms.

Most medical science will dictate that if the patient comes in with the symptoms of gastrointestinal disorders, then following the prescribed treatment regimen for that disease would be the logical course of action to administer as a proper medical response.

But what if the root cause of the disease (whatever disease that may be) is this toxic ACE wound that is continuing to grow and release even more poison into the body, while the doctor treats the symptom?

The patient feels better, may even be able to clear the symptoms of the originally diagnosed disease, but the poison continues to spread, expressing itself again. This time presenting a new batch of symptoms. Maybe this time they show up as the symptoms of heart disease, some other disease, mental disorder, self or substance abuse.

The body will continue to break down and deteriorate until there is no life left in it if, and the victim will often entertain suicidal ideation if these unresolved childhood traumas are not dealt with, and they will have no idea why their life is in shambles. The symptoms can cause problems in all areas of life including friends, family, and the workplace.

If you are ignoring or pushing down your trauma from the past you are sick and tired, and your life is a mess.

The thing is, that your mind is desperately trying to protect you, and experience has convinced your subconscious mind that this (hiding the wounds) is the best course of action because it works – in the short term. You get up the next morning, your life goes on, seemingly without a hitch… while the poisonous toxins invade and spread silently in your body until they reach critical mass and reveal themselves.

In many cases, repressed trauma will stay hidden until another traumatic event, news reports, or the death of the perpetrator triggers the memory.

In my life, I have dealt with enough adult trauma to keep me focused on my own recovery. I have spent most of my adult life working with others dealing with mental health issues, many of which were the result of repressed trauma, and it wasn’t until my own childhood trauma was uncovered under hypnosis, that I realized how important this work is and how deep the rabbit hole could go.

I was nearly killed as a four-year-old victim of sexual abuse, and this led to a series of victimization which continued until my teens, which my mind protected me from, knowing that I might not have made it otherwise, so these memories were secretly stored in my body, and they did express themselves as a disease.

Into my adult years, I continued to find myself in dangerous and abusive situations, dealing with each one, until I could finally break the cycle. I then focused my efforts to help other victims do the same, freeing themselves from the cycle of abuse, healing hidden wounds of unresolved trauma, and starting a new life, free from trauma.

Some of this work is so critical and deep, that we must summon all the power of God and the universe to do this sacred work.

I am a fourth-generation Curandera Healer, who retired from my work as a Mental Health Counselor for the State of Oregon after 34 years of service. I also studied to become a Reiki Master and teacher, and am a Certified Olympian Life Coach.

It takes all the therapeutic science, training, tools, techniques, spiritual practices, and intuitive coaching methods I have been able to accumulate to find ways to help victims take their lives back from the trauma they suffered in the past, so they do not have to be victims anymore or ever again.

I have written a book entitled Trauma-ties which reveals my traumatic past and gives the reader insights into their own potential hidden and repressed trauma. I also train and certify counselors to be Trauma Advisors.

If you are suffering from repressed trauma, please feel free to reach out to me. And remember, you are not alone. With a compassionate and empathetic hand, we can get you through this.

If you are a therapist or counselor looking to expand your practice to include helping others with unresolved trauma, and you are interested in becoming a Certified Trauma Advisor (CTA), please contact me as well.

Many blessings to you and yours,

Rosa M Luna

 

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How to Heal from Childhood Trauma

Healing from childhood trauma is not easy. As an adult however, it is possible to heal. If you want to get over your past trauma, you first need to understand how it affects you. If you experience trauma in childhood, you will be having trouble in keeping up with the daily routines of life.

Just deciding what to wear to work is very stressful to start off the day. That’s if you can keep a job. Childhood trauma, as I have mentioned before, effects almost all aspects of our lives. This effects how you work with others. Being intimate with your significant other, friends, co-workers, and authority figures. There could be many more problems that we have not touched on yet, all depending on your experience.

There are some techniques from which you can recover from the trauma of childhood.

  • Distance yourself from toxic people:

Not that you are religious, but we do give the bible some respect. It says in     1 Corinthians chapter 15 verse 33 that “Bad associations spoil good habits”.

There is a saying in Spanish that my Mama Luna would repeat to me frequently when I was young, “Dime con quien te yuntas y te dire quien eres.” Tranlation -“Tell me who you hang around with, and I will describe what kind of person you are.”

Healing needs a peaceful and nurturing environment to grow in. If those whom you choose to associate with are using drugs, drinking, cannot hold jobs, lie, cheat, steal, and manipulate you, you are associating with toxic people who are poisonous to you and your healing process.

  • Healing, cannot take place in a toxic environment.

Things to help you heal from childhood trauma is to remove toxic encounters in life. Many things and everything that you can control or change that is toxic in your life need to be removed. “May God give you the courage to change the things you can and the wisdom to know the difference. (Sound familiar? It’s part of the Serenity Prayer). I use this prayer to help me remember that I cannot control other stupid people.

When I am not feeling safe or comfortable.  I can only control how I feel and how I want to my environment to be.

  • Learn self-regulation

Developing simple mindfulness techniques like breathing, relaxation, and meditation can help you realize you can make things better.  Meditation and yoga can calm your mind, enhance your life physically and emotionally.

  • Sometimes it is difficult to sleep. Sleeping gives the body time to heal the mind.

Avoid caffeine during the day. That includes sodas, some contain caffeine. Drink plenty of water, mix in some lemon to add flavor. Plus, drinking lemon water is good for the gut and lowers belly fat.

  • Seeking support from those you trust.

Sometimes it’s not possible to heal from childhood trauma alone. If you want to find your way back to harmony, start by seeking support from those you trust.

  • Eat!

Do you remember when you were a child, seeing someone get very grumpy when they or you were just hungry? In my personal experience, I would start getting angry or frustrated because I was hungry. But I did not realize that’s, what it was.

  • Start getting in touch with your body. Listen to it. How?

By eating healthy and at the regular times, it gives your brain the fuel needed to heal. Minimize your symptoms of anger, anxiety and depression by eating a well-balanced nutritious diet.

Sometimes your body is trying to tell you to get some rest, when your nose is getting stuffed, your throat is getting scratchy, you just might be coming down with a cold. Listen to your body symptoms, it is trying to tell you something. Are you taking your vitamins?  Our body does not always get the nutrients it needs from our food and vegetables.

  • Socialize

Trauma forces you to isolate yourself sometimes. When you are healing, try to engage with more people. Explore new things, join other support groups, you may meet others who have gone through what you are going through right now and they will understand. It can give you the good association you needed in this time to heal. You will start to feel, that you are now in safe surroundings. But please, continue pay attention to your body signals, or your gut. If it does not feel right, it may not be.

Considering the physical and mental health issues that occur alongside childhood trauma, it is very important to find an experienced medical specialist or therapist that can help you with your physical, mental, and emotional healing. It might take more than one specialist.

Some specialists or therapists can use the inner-child process to get in connection with and spending some time with your inner child and comfort him or her.  Reassure your inner child that now you are in a loving and safer place.

You can resolve the hurts of childhood that lives inside you, by having your healer use some of those methods to heal yourself.

Allow yourself to recognize all the techniques you have used to keep yourself safe. Be real with yourself while recognizing all the coping strategies that you have learned. They may not be working in your best interests.

The incidents and things that happened in our childhood shape us forever.  But remember to let go of the past, love yourself and forgive yourself unconditionally and remember that you are not alone.