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Save the Children Change the World

IF you were to look at criminals in prison, you will find that most of the offenders have a history that includes being a victim of childhood abuse. In fact, 1 out of 20 children are victims of child abuse, and these innocent youths are likely to grow into adults suffering from addiction, mental health problems, and are more likely to end up swallowed up by the court system. Children are the future. Save the Children Change the World

Every state spends billions of dollars combatting the effects of childhood abuse in adults.

In my work with those with mental health issues, most of them started with trauma in childhood, mostly sexual in nature. These wounds run deep and prevent the victims from ever having a normal life without intervention.

Our crime statistics would reduce massively if we could just give our children the love and support that they need to have a healthy foundation for a better life.

ACEs are Adverse Childhood Experiences, and they are slowly killing our youth. They are 8 times more likely to commit suicide before coming to adulthood. These young brains and bodies need nurturing to release the proper hormones which are necessary for normal childhood development.

Trauma has many faces. Childhood trauma can be the result of not having enough food to eat, lack of adequate shelter, or domestic violence. The greater the exposure to ACEs, the more likely they are to become addicts, antisocial, mentally ill, or criminally minded.

Childhood trauma creates an incredible financial drain on the community as these children grow up and create problems in society as we try to address their needs. You can hardly fault them for something that happened to them as innocent children, and we are faced with the reality and cost later in life.

Children inherit their cycle of hardship from their parents, and they are likely to raise families that duplicate the generation of the problem after generation, unless we can start to do something about it at the earliest stage: These precious babies.

For communities without adequate resources, they are unlikely to affect making the situation any better because you cannot punish a broken person to wellness. There are not enough prisons in the world to deal with this issue of adults who are wounded and broken to no fault of their own.

Economically challenged neighborhoods are the worst breeding grounds for childhood victimization and abuse, which is passed on generationally.

Your Community Can Be the Difference

Life could be saved and changed. These victims could become active valuable members of our communities with the right kind of attention and programs.

Leading with compassion, some churches and community organizations have started to reach out to the victims, with supportive, non-judgmental home visits without strings attached. This has the most measurable impact on the youth being visited and supported.

These young victims need to have access to proper medical attention without having to burden that family with the expense of doing so. Churches or other non-profits can help to subsidize the medical attention needed.

“Normal” children have access to educational and social programs that may be out of reach of the economically challenged kids. A funded and empowered organization can help to bridge the gap and create opportunities for underprivileged children to participate in these programs. This helps to breed self-confidence and esteem in the young children who would otherwise fall victim to the cycle of hardship.

Seeing that our children, all of our children in our communities have adequate food, shelter and clothing is a key to the gateway of breaking the cycle.

Want to change the world?

Help a child break free from the cycle of hardship.

Many blessings to you.

 

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Coming Back from Trauma

Phases of Recovery

What are the different phases you go through when coming back from trauma? Psychological trauma occurs as a result of some stressful events in life. It destroys your sense of safety and security and involves a basic threat to life, lack of trust.

Traumatic experiences can be coping, but it takes some time and your ability to blend emotions involved with the experience.

Psychological trauma usually makes a person hopeless and leaves a person struggling with their emotions.

When bad events happen, it can take time to get over the pain and sense of safety and security again.

Whether the trauma happened in past years or yesterday, you can heal from it and can move further into your happy life.

Any instance that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and frightened can be traumatic.

It’s not the purpose that determines whether an event is traumatic but preferably your subjective emotional experience of the event.

Healing from trauma is a personal process, and it looks different for different people.

Your distinctive ability to heal from trauma depends on many things that include your beliefs and perceptions. Your level of coping, connection towards others, and even your psychological functioning before the event.

Overcoming your feelings

The first thing in healing from trauma includes reestablishing feelings of stability and security. Trauma victims have insecure feelings. Regaining a sense of protection involves creating a secure and predictable environment.

Remembrance

The second stage is about processing the trauma and naming it. Begin to use words and emotions to give a name to trauma and explain your situation to your friends or have counseling from a therapist to reduce your trauma and heal you. Give yourself time to grieve and express your feelings.

Reconnection

The third phase is about giving new hope for the coming future. Allowing redefine yourself in a healing process. Take some steps to reclaim your personal willpower. Add a Mindful element.

Meditation can also calm and help you as well. Mindfulness tells you to live in the present moment rather than thinking of the past.

Post-traumatic growth

The fourth phase is post-traumatic growth. In this phase, you may be changed by your experience of trauma. Post-traumatic growth is experienced when positive mental health experiences are experienced, which raises you to a higher level of functioning than you otherwise have achieved.

Recovery

By going through these phases successfully, it will help you to be free from the traumatized life and live a meaningful and rewarding life. Recovery from trauma gives a person new meaning to his life and the strength and secret of living a happier life. You must allow yourself the opportunity to heal.

What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. We are all responsible for everything in our life.  The best and the worse. Recovering from trauma gives us our control back. Don’t give away your power by blaming another person. We are the only ones thinking for ourselves. We can create peace and harmony and balance in our mind, then we can find it in our lives.

Many blessings to you.

 

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Children Living with Trauma

Children living with trauma are those who have experienced one or more traumas in life. Traumatic stress includes a variety of reactions that include intense and depressive symptoms. Without treatment, it can affect the child’s nervous system. These kinds of children are more vulnerable to serious health issues.

Risks:

The risk factors depend upon the severity of trauma in children. Protective measures can reduce the traumatic impact on children. Some factors to consider include:

The severity of the incident:

How severe was the event? How badly the child hurt from the incident? Did someone they love die? Were they mistreated, sexually molested, were they starved a punishment? These are the factors to consider while measuring distress among children.

Impact of untreated trauma:

In many cases, a child’s body and mind recover quickly from trauma. However, other childhood trauma can leave lasting and long-term effects. By this, the child can experience health and mental illness.

Factors of traumatic stress are:

ACE’s (adverse childhood experiences)

They used this new technique to check on the severity of the Child’s suffering. Utilizing this new tool, many care providers, doctors, therapists, and many others are working with children especially those with trauma. These tools assist with the levels in which the Childs need assistance to heal.

Younger children are more vulnerable to trauma that can negatively affect their well-being. This can lead to problems with Childs physical or mental health issues. ACES can give those involved with the care of children an idea of the pain and suffering going on with the child you are working with, also what steps to take.

Experiencing traumatic events multiple times is more harmful than a single event.

Healthy Relationships:

Children with support and healthy relationships are more likely to recover. Having regular family meals together, for example, having regular “no electronics” but time to talk, play, or reading together creates a healthy support system for the whole family.

Coping skills:

Intelligence, physical health, and self-confidence help children cope easily.

Understanding your child behavior:

When children experienced trauma multiple times, it leaves a negative impact on their brains. It might result in aggression, disobeying, and feeling disconnected. So in this situation, give your child time to act appropriately. Do not show any violence that will reduce more adverse to their health.

Trauma triggers:

When your child misbehaves, he or she may be experiencing a trauma trigger. A trauma trigger reminds the child of the original event. However, responses to triggers are un-planned. When children’s bodies are overwhelmed with stress, they lose their senses. They can also misbehave with you.

Helping your child:

Identify trauma triggers:

Something you did at your home can trigger your child without either of you realizing it. It is vital to keep an eye on your child’s behavior. Help your child overcome bad experiences.

 available to your children:

Provide encouragement, care, and comfort in ways that your child will accept. Spend some quality time with your child. Be patient if children seem needy. Many times a child just needs to feel loved, feel like they are in a secure home. Children need to be shown, love

Calmly respond, don’t react:

Your adverse treatment may trigger your child. When your child is sad, do what you can do to keep calm. Lower your voice; appreciate your child’s feelings.

 

Help your child:

Encourage your child to practice slow breathing, play outside, and listening calmly. Getting your child involved in sports, dancing, or other forms of regular exercise.

Encourage self-esteem:

Positive experiences help the child to recover from trauma quickly. Always encourage your child to achieve high goals and be positive with them.

Making a plan for what to do when your child is feeling stressed out, angry, or overwhelmed. Be there for children when they are feeling sad. Sometimes a hug is all they need. Showing you love them no matter what.

Trauma can affect a child’s behavior in many ways. It can harm their well-being. However, with proper care and understanding, all family members can heal from a traumatic event.

Trying to heal a child is not always easy, they will remember how you helped them in time of stress.; you are their example to remember in adulthood.

Many Blessings to you.

 

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How does trauma affect babies?

Trauma can hurt babies and toddlers. Many people think that babies do not remember or notice traumatic events. But the truth is that anything that affects older and adults in the family can also affect a baby.

Trauma can disrupt many aspects of child development.  If the family member is affected with trauma the baby is probably also affected.

How trauma affects babies and toddlers?

Babies and toddlers are helpless. They depend on their families and parents for a sense of safety and security. They need emotional care through loving and reassuring interactions and coping in an ongoing and consistent way. That is the way babies and toddlers develop and grow.

During their early months and years, children are sensitive to:

  • Problems affecting the babies’ parents or caregivers, which may include fear and sadness.
  • Separation from their parent or caregiver, for instance, absence due to injury or other factors related to the trauma. That can have a double impact: distress of the separation itself and insecurity of managing without the safety, understanding, and nurturing of their caregiver provides. It can slow the recovery process.
  • What is happening in the environment , toddlers and babies are greatly impacted by distress, and the negative energy and noise. In those situation, they are not sure what is happening around them and can negatively impact babies’ growth.
  • Disruption in developing a bond with parents or lack of understanding, trauma can sometimes get worse and make the bond formation even more difficult. Thus, babies tend to have stress and trauma in this situation.

If any of these things are happening, it is crucial to think about the baby’s effect. If the family member or any caregiver is affected by any trauma, the baby is probably also affected.

Reactions of babies in trauma:

When babies have exposed to life-threatening incidents they become scared. Some most common reactions of babies include

  • High level of distress.
  • The child may give you a shock and serious look.
  • Giving the appearance of being numb or being cut-off from everything around.
  • Loss of happy, engaging smile.
  • Loss of eating habits
  • No eye contact
  • Slipping back on their physical skills.

How can you help your baby cope with trauma?

Love and care is a vital key to help a baby who has traumatized. There are some activities parents can do to help their baby to cope up with trauma:

  • Seek and accept the help you need to manage your shock and emotional response.
  • Reduce the initial stress by helping the child settle and to feel safe and loved.
  • Maintain the proper child’s routine of sleeping, playing, eating.
  • Offer a calm and peaceful environment.
  • Avoid unnecessary separations from caregivers.
  • Avoid expressing the child to reminders of the trauma.

 Traumatic events can affect how a baby’s mind development;

It can have lifelong consequences. There are  different ways to help your baby cope with trauma.

Many Blessings to you and our children. God Bless.

 

 

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Symptoms of Trauma:

What is trauma? American Psychological Association provides another definition of trauma. They said ” An emotional response of someone against the especial negative instance.” Adverse events such as significant injury by accident, violent attack, bullying, domestic violence, childhood neglect, etc.

Trauma can be a normal reaction to any horrifying instances; its effects can be so severe that they can negatively affect one’s ability to live everyday life and the function needed to survive even a day.

In such cases, a trauma patient needed special attention and treatment of that stress and dysfunction by such events. That needed help to restore the emotional well-being that leads to everyday life.

Leading Causes of Trauma:

One can face a trauma problem by severe negative instances that leave a lasting impact on our memory.

This event severely affects emotional and mental stability. There are many violent physical reasons for trauma, to lead one towards a trauma disease.

Causes of trauma can be one-time events, ongoing events, and ordinary events that may be overlooked. One-time causes can be an unexpected violent attack, especially in childhood, an accident or injury, incest, beating, many traumatic events that could shake our world.

On-going events in life can be a  continuous life threat,  for example, crime in your neighborhood, surgery, death of your loved ones, disappointing experience, humiliation, etc.

Trauma is not only associated with the presence of anyone at the place of the event. It is also possible to be in trauma if anyone experiences seeing an event from a distance. kids and those of young age children need proper examination after seeing or facing a traumatic event.  It is essential to ensure their emotional well-being.

Symptoms of Trauma:

There are various trauma symptoms, and some of them are basic in nature, and you may look out for them. People that endured traumatic events may show some symptoms such as not responding to a conversation, shaken, and disoriented, nonresponsive to some stimuli.

We can separate them mainly into two types that are emotional symptoms and physical symptoms.

Emotional Symptoms:

One of the simple ways of determining trauma is the display of the emotional behavior of any person. Some emotional symptoms, such as anger, sadness, denial, and emotional outbursts, are common among trauma patients. It is difficult for friends and family members to face emotional direst and unexpected changes in a beloved friend or love member of the family.

It may be hard for you to help a loved one who keeps pushing you away. Sometimes it is hard for others to understand that emotional symptoms are due to a traumatic event and need your help to recover.

Physical Symptoms:

Some physical symptoms of trauma include lethargy, fatigue, fast heartbeat, low concentration, and paleness. A trauma victim may face panic attacks and anxiety and unable to control some circumstances.

Physical symptoms of trauma are severe as a physical injury or unexplained illness and are alarming.

With the help of a trauma caregiver or professional help can a trauma victim start to manage their symptomatic stress levels.

Trauma is an emotional response of someone against unexpected adverse events. Some events such as accident, injury, death of your loved one, rape in childhood, and any severe disease can be the reason for trauma.

Without proper help and relief of the trauma symptoms, a person can develop frequent physical symptoms and you will not be able to understand why. All this time it was is due to the trauma you suffered. It is so confusing to me the physical symptoms that can be created in our bodies.

 

 

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Why Does Trauma Cause Addiction?

Why are we all in some kind of pain or suffering? Those of us that could catch on sooner, will figure it out and try to understand our suffering and our pain. Our pain of what?

I thought I was born with some kind of learning disability. I felt like maybe my mom dropped me on my head.

When I was in school, things that the teacher was trying to teach, was way over my head. That’s after I learned to speak and read English.

I learned how to read and speak English, thanks to my 4th-grade teacher who took “my time” after school to mentor me.  I thought she was punishing me for stabbing the other kids with my pin.

I used to carry a long hatpin in my braided hair to defend myself during recess or sometimes after school. I had to fight off some of the kids that wanted to beat me up. Why I don’t know!

Sometimes, there were like 12 kids and just me. NAWW… there were only two and/or three. But it felt like a lot of them to fight off.

This story has nothing to do with becoming addicted to drugs, Nothing, but it was a good story, and it’s true too.

Sometimes, I like to break the monotony. Part of my ADHD, maybe.

Why do some of us get addicted to alcohol and drugs? We all can agree that addiction is a chemical reaction in the brain. This can be caused by ingesting a substance that triggers addictive brain synapses, or your brain – without any other exterior substance – can fire off the same addictive response, even though no drug or substance was ingested. Trauma is such a trigger device.

In terms of trauma, in the beginning, people who go through a traumatic event turn to alcohol and other pain-relieving measures to forget about what occurred and to escape from the horrible memories of their traumatic experience.

An early stressful event can also grow the risk of substance abuse issues, due to attempts to self-medicate or hose-down mood signs associated with a deregulated organic pressure of reacting to pain and suffering.

How do you explain trauma-informed care?

Trauma-informed care is a strength-based total framework that is grounded in the information and responsiveness to, the effect of the trauma, that emphasizes bodily, psychological, and emotional protection for survivors. This creates opportunities for survivors to rebuild and have a sense of control.

 How does trauma affect the mind?

In the patient’s response to traumatic events, a secondary stress hormone known as adrenalin gets launched into the bloodstream, in an area of the mind referred to as the amygdala and sends it into overdrive. The amygdala is responsible for triggering flashbacks and is critical in detecting emotions consisting of fear.

How do you know if you need help?

Symptoms

  1. Lose track of time.
  2. Chronic headache or headaches that linger or get worse.
  3. Convulsions or seizures.
  4. Vomiting or nausea.
  5. Dilation of one or each pupil of the eyes
  6. Clean fluids draining from the nose or ears.
  7. Unable to wake up from sleep.

The link between childhood trauma and addictions

The human mind is one of the most amazingly adaptive things on earth, the brain can react and adapt to whatever you go through in your existence. It is amazingly made.

This potentially plays into every available part of your presence, allowing you to analyze new abilities and make memories as you move throughout the stage where life plays out.

How does plasticity help in adulthood?

Plasticity is also why the things you enjoy in your youth are congruent with you into your formative years and maturity. Plasticity is a series of neurological systems that fire in succession based on your experience, how you react, behave, and understand the human nature of situations.

Your brain’s neurons change with the experiences that affect your life. It continues as you mature into adulthood.

There is a clear connection between early life trauma and alcoholism and other addictions. This connection between child abuse and adulthood trauma occurs because adolescent trauma and maltreatment may be the motive behind abnormalities inside the brain structure.

Those abnormalities can cause various problems with cognition and behavior. Excessive degrees of cortisol and other stress hormone compounds from neurological systems based on years of trauma, and these systems have a hugely negative effect on normal brain function and development.

Treatment:

Trauma can create a series of long-term intellectual fitness problems, including PTSD. As many as one-third of all individuals with addictions experienced some form of trauma in the course of their formative years.

Those individuals might also model their substance abuse and self-medication on behaviors they observed from a loved one while developing, a “learned behavior”.

This self-medication is the foundation for linking trauma and substance abuse.

Treating dependency and alcoholism resulting from trauma includes addiction therapy which starts evolving together with detoxing to wean your body off drugs or alcoholism, with medically supervised environmental dependency specialists, leading to understanding and formulating a highly customized approach to behavioral rehabilitation.

In the end, you may be able to supersede your past substance use and trauma by accepting your true faith and collaboration. As you analyze coping mechanisms apart from self-medicating, you’ll begin to feel empowered and strong again.

Aren’t you sick and tired of being sick and tired?

Here’s another way to heal.

Being addicted to drugs, alcohol, or any other substance is not easy to overcome, because it takes a source stronger than you or me to assist us with this problem. Addiction hurts us to the core.

A higher power, having a purpose in our lives, having faith in something far superior to anything we could otherwise imagine, some of us are “put off” hearing it, but it takes God.

Spirituality is important to recovery. Alcohol and drugs make us feel like we are alone. They make us feel like there is no reason to live. “I am too weak” “I am not strong enough to get off drugs” Are you willing to try?

You are not alone.  Please get help.

Many Blessings to you.

 

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Coping with Trauma

Every person experiences traumatic events that cause stress; whether it is a coronavirus, plane crash, a traffic incident, or any violent crime, you may feat intense depression and fear or feel numb. Repeated exposure to an incident can overwhelm your mind with stress just as you experience the event firsthand. Its how you deal with it that effects the rest of your life.

Traumatic events can destroy your sense of wellbeing, leaving you helpless and vulnerable in a dangerous world. But there are so many ways to calm your mind, regain your emotional balance, and coping with trauma.

Don’t ignore your feelings

It may seem great, when you avoid your feelings, an emotion like anger or frustration, they do exist, and as you already know, it is hard to stop those emotions.  Instead, ask yourself why are they so intense? Yes, you get angry, but so intensively, and why? So much so, that you could hurt yourself or sadly a loved one, like your child or a beloved family member. Believe me, you will regret that.

Continue giving attention to them or not. Even intense and strong feelings will pass if you simply allow yourself to think about what you feel and why?

  • Be patient and calm with the pace of recovery.
  • Be prepared for difficult and violent emotions.
  • Find your source of belief and strength.
  • Find your purpose for living and for going on (vocation, children, family, or friends).

Re-establish your routine

After the traumatic event, try to get back to your regular routine(s) as soon as possible, it will help you to cope with your trauma, anxiety, and distress. Even if your daily life is disrupted, you can plan a schedule of eating, sleeping, work, spending time with your family and friends.

Utilize a timer or alarm if needed. We seem to space out and loose time.

Put significant life decisions on hold

The big decision of life like about home, work, or family, while traumatized, will make you more depressed  and stressful, and there is a chance of making bad decisions when you are not correctly in your senses. Try to wait for some time until life has settled down and you will be able to think correctly.

Get moving or exercise

Physically, an activity also helps calm your nervous system and helps you move on with the traumatic event.

Trying exercise that is rhythmic and engages your whole body, walking, running, and swimming are an excellent choice to help your mind and body.

Add mindful elements by focusing on your soul, how it feels when you move. Feel the rhythm of your breathing, your feet hitting the ground, or the relaxed feeling of wind on your skin can calm your mind and body.

Mediate, going into your feelings, by taking breaths, closing your eyes, placing the white light of source energy for healing. Your white light could come from anywhere, like the sky or a tree…

Loving yourself is another issue to work on. How do you feel about yourself?

You are your best friend. Look in the mirror, re-introduce your friend and activate your relationship with him or her. Sounds corny, but it works.

Boost your energy and motivate yourself to exercise; start by dancing and moving around. Once you start moving around here and there you will feel more energetic.

Get yourself a proper sleep

After experiencing a traumatic or stressful event it is difficult to get proper sleep. Worries and fears may keep you up late at night, or bad dreams may disturb you.

The following things may help you have a better sleep.

  • Avoid caffeine in the afternoon or evening.
  • Do something relaxing before going to bed.
  • Make your bedroom soothing and quiet.
  • Sleeping heals you inside and out.
  • Do not take addictive sleeping pills.
  • Melatonin could assist, it is a natural medication.
  • Meditation, talking to your spirit guides, or angels.
  • Ask, and it shall be given.

Be kind

Accept a compliment and give one as well. What will it hurt? You will see what it does to others and to you. The receiver will feel like they received a gift. So will you.

Also, it is a way of keeping the flow of a good thing going. You will be surprised at how much better you will feel, Thinking of others, instead of just yourself.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

There are many of us, not just you and me going through this hellish trauma.

Being and living is an example of healing. You made it.

Rejoice in the abundance of being alive. Awaken each morning and have another experience of a new day, to do better, and heal yourself to change into a better person, and make the world a little better each day.

Associate only with inspirational people and self-healers.

Many Blessings.

 

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Healing from Trauma

Trauma is defined as something that throws us off balance. It is a state of confusion and forces us to shut down emotionally. Traumatic events can damage your senses, leaving you hopeless and vulnerable in this world. We will explain to you how to heal from trauma.

What happens with your body when you are traumatized?

Overproduction of stress hormones:

If you are consistently in a state of trauma, your stress hormones stay active and keep you in a state of high alert. You might experience a trembling startle response that reminds you of the traumatic event.

You will feel the fight or freeze mode:

You’ll either fight against your trigger or run from it; you will feel paralyzed. You may experience sleep disorders, and you may hate meeting people or isolate yourself.

Trauma is linked to future health problems.

Stress from a traumatic event can have long-term health effects:

  • Heart and liver chronic disease
  • Gastrointestinal illness
  • Cancer
  • Anxiety
  • Emotional numbness
  • Memory lapses
  • Distractibility
  • Diabetics
  • Many other unexplained illnesses.

I have a clientwho  suffered trauma, as a young child and because the body remembers, her body started to deal with the trauma that had not be resolved.

. This client was trying, but her body was reacting to her some unresolved symptoms of trauma.

Its important to love yourself. Doing things you enjoy, dancing, reading, or something that lightens up your heart.

At 14 years old she had to be hospitalized with pendezides.  Spend a week in the hospital recovering from that. Then she lost her touciles “repressed emotions”, later her gallbladder, “not been able to let go “bitterness. This is according to Louise Hays “ yu can heal your life.

today at 45 she is going through healing from diverticulitis, an illness where doctors had to take out 18 inches of her intestines. “She is spilling out her guts”. Physically.

Because spiritually she is unable too.

We need to heal ourselves by changing what is happening to us emotionally, physically, and spiritually. There is no need to continue with unresolved issues. They no longer serve us.

There are some phases of trauma recovery:

Safety and stabilization:

This phase aims to feel safe and secure. Trauma makes you feel uncertain in your body, and it can take months or years to feel safe and secure again. Depending upon the severity of trauma and how well you process it with your will-power.

The first step is to identify which of your emotions are linked with trauma, like intense fear or depression, and then learn how to manage and heal from these emotions. You can help this with the help of your loved ones or talking to a therapist. Getting help thru a mental health professional.

Remembrance and mourning:

The second phase is to name your trauma. Begin to use words and emotions to give a name to trauma and explain your situation to your friends or have counseling from a therapist to reduce your trauma and heal you. Give yourself time to grieve and express your feelings.

Reconnection and integration:

The third phase is about giving new hope to you for the coming future. Let you redefine yourself in a healing process. Take some steps to reclaim your personal will-power. Add a Mindful element, and meditation can also calm and help you as well. Mindfulness helps you to live in the current moment rather than thinking of the past.

Post-traumatic growth:

The fourth phase is post-traumatic growth. In this phase, you may be changed by your experience of trauma. Post-traumatic growth is experienced when positive mental health experiences are experienced, which raises you to a higher level of functioning than you otherwise have achieved.

Achieving recovery:

By going through these phases successfully, it will be time to entirely free from the traumatized life and live a meaningful and rewarding life. Recovery from trauma gives a person new meaning to his life and the strength and secret of living a happier life.

Learning to let go and acceptance can be vital to healing from emotional trauma. You must allow yourself the opportunity to heal. I now look back at the past with love and choose to learn from my old experience. The past is over and gone , you cannot change that,  I can control Only my experience of this moment, to love myself, for being me. Loving me for bringing myself through this past as a survivor. I share with you, who I am. We are all connected spiritually, Now, we are now well.

Many Blessings to you.

 

 

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Do Black People Suffer More Trauma?

I was reading an article about Black Lives Matter. You know, I believe they get the blunt effects of racial issues. This continues repeatedly. I recall reading in a magazine when I was very young.

I remember one story about a young black girl who had gotten all dressed up to go to a friend’s wedding event. Her family found her raped and dead, killed with her nylons wrapped around her neck. Right there in the bushes of her own home. She almost made it home.  That magazine was full of stories like that.

Very depressing. But it explained to you how to be safe. After reading about these kinds of things does place doubt about being safe. With cameras everywhere now, I did see a video of a Mexican man being given extremely unnecessary force.

After police had him handcuffed and down on the ground, one of the other officers got his police dog out of the police car and directed it to bite on the Mexican man already cuffed and down on the ground and been held down by other officers.

I do have to admit that one of the officers holding this man down looked disturbed by the other officers’ stupid actions.

As much as we do need our police force, “one bad apple spoils the rest of the whole bunch” as an old saying says. I don’t remember who says this saying. “Pero, por uno los pagan los de mas.” Another saying in the Latino community. Translation: “Because of one person, we all have to pay.”

A lot of us, black or brown, get discriminated against enough. But too, if you are a smart woman no matter what color you are, many of us are being discriminated against. We are just not being paid our worth. A coworker looked up my wage and said I was being paid too much for my grade of education and announced it in a staff meeting.

Discrimination! Discrimination!  everywhere. Will this ever end?           The world is going through this repeatedly, everywhere!

Back to the title, “Do black people suffer more trauma?” and discrimination? YES! Especially from the older generation. They raise their children to be racist and their children teach their children and the “beat goes on” and on.    Racism is taught. It just doesn’t happen.

This brings me to something that I remember when I was in junior high. I was walking home for lunch from school. A car stopped beside me and the white boys grabbed me by my hair and cleared their throats on my hair.

I pulled away crying. I ran inside my house and my mother helped me wash my hair she said, “I was so lucky.” I yelled out “LUCKY! In which way?” mom said, “They could have pulled you into the car and raped you, or worst, killed you afterward.” Yeah, ok, but I still did not feel lucky.

Many of us, have learned ways of surviving many circumstances or maybe, we have learned and taught ourselves just to survive and/or adapt to some of the societal ways so that our lives can continue.

Many Blessings.

 

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How do Shamans and Curandero Healers Heal Trauma Victims?

A curandero is someone who practices Curanderismo in Hispanic culture. A curandero is a spiritual leader in the community. They treat people who have had a traumatic incident in life or experienced unusual circumstances.

My mother was a curandera, as was her mother and her grandmother generation upon generation.  Mama Luna was a very magical curandera. As a curandera, she’d heal adults, children, and infants of some childhood illness.

La mollera, is one of the infirmities that I would see my mom heal infants from. La mollera is that soft spot on the center top of the infant’s head. It would fall and it seems to appear like a small hole on top of the infant’s head. If it was not even with the skull, the baby would get fuzzy, cry frequently, sometimes get colic. The baby would not be able to get appropriate sleep. After la mollera would get lifted and the baby would instantly fall asleep and from then on,  get the much needed sleep.

Curanderismo is not just for anyone. The curandera would get the skills handed down to them from another curandera or curandero. Especially if they are in the family. My mother told me I had the power within me to become a curandera.

Of course, I did not listen or learned her modalities. I was very religious and did not study beside her as is the tradtion. Years later, here I am following in her footsteps. Except I use hypnotherapy, took it in colledge, and Reiki teachings. I teach Reiki and attune everyone who is willing to study and practice it.

Healing Power of the Curandero

The curandero dates back to Hispanic people’s lives from Mexico and other South American countries and now, here in the United States of America. Curanderos seem to be the masters of their skills in healing traumatized patients. The curanderos’ gifts to heal come from God.

The three types of curanderos are herbalists; yerberos is one, the second is partera which means midwife, and the third is massaera which means the massage therapist.

Curanderos have exquisite skills of healing patients. They have a variety of solutions to the problems brought to them.

Shamans

Shamans are similar to the curanderos, who plays the role of healer and spiritual leader in their community. Historically, shamanism was the first religion of humanity and has been in existence for more than 99% of our existence.

Most shamans are men, and very occasionally women.

While shamanism regularly gave way to extra bureaucratic religious strategies over the millennia, the religion itself did not disappear; instead, it took new forms.

The shaman’s critical conduct is to go into an altered state of a person’s focus, which induces via drumming. Occasionally, they may try this through psychological practices, which include sensory overload or sensory deprivation. In some instances, the shaman ingests plant hallucinogens or gives them to his customers.

The shaman controls the trance effectively. The shaman uses this state to see into the client’s destiny or to contact the spiritual entities by using his religious entities. These then call and conquer the evil, negate hexes, curses, neutralize witchcraft, and restore the client into good health.

Next, is the psychotherapy method about behavior modification                                                                                         

It has been observed that shamanic research is packed with the analysis of magic and his descriptions. The shaman plunges a knife into his parka. Under it, he has hidden an animal bladder complete of blood, which spurts everywhere around; it is not unlike a stage magician. This attests to his incredible powers.

Cognitive Restructuring

Cognitive Restructuring focuses on the shaman’s rationality. Despite his theatricality and changed states of consciousness, the shaman is a rational and empirical person. He combines capabilities in botany, pharmaceuticals, and psychology. He is quick to give recommendations in his recovery capacity.

Shamen also have an impressive and fantastic list of healing plants and animals, that they grow or gather. Indeed, rational and empirical methods are shamanic healer’s strength and power.

We have told various methods and techniques of how do shamans and curanderos/healers heal trauma victims.

The curanderos and shamans are the most famous and have multiple skills to remove physical or mental illness inflicted by adverse circumstances.

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