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Coming Back from Trauma

Phases of Recovery

What are the different phases you go through when coming back from trauma? Psychological trauma occurs as a result of some stressful events in life. It destroys your sense of safety and security and involves a basic threat to life, lack of trust.

Traumatic experiences can be coping, but it takes some time and your ability to blend emotions involved with the experience.

Psychological trauma usually makes a person hopeless and leaves a person struggling with their emotions.

When bad events happen, it can take time to get over the pain and sense of safety and security again.

Whether the trauma happened in past years or yesterday, you can heal from it and can move further into your happy life.

Any instance that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and frightened can be traumatic.

It’s not the purpose that determines whether an event is traumatic but preferably your subjective emotional experience of the event.

Healing from trauma is a personal process, and it looks different for different people.

Your distinctive ability to heal from trauma depends on many things that include your beliefs and perceptions. Your level of coping, connection towards others, and even your psychological functioning before the event.

Overcoming your feelings

The first thing in healing from trauma includes reestablishing feelings of stability and security. Trauma victims have insecure feelings. Regaining a sense of protection involves creating a secure and predictable environment.

Remembrance

The second stage is about processing the trauma and naming it. Begin to use words and emotions to give a name to trauma and explain your situation to your friends or have counseling from a therapist to reduce your trauma and heal you. Give yourself time to grieve and express your feelings.

Reconnection

The third phase is about giving new hope for the coming future. Allowing redefine yourself in a healing process. Take some steps to reclaim your personal willpower. Add a Mindful element.

Meditation can also calm and help you as well. Mindfulness tells you to live in the present moment rather than thinking of the past.

Post-traumatic growth

The fourth phase is post-traumatic growth. In this phase, you may be changed by your experience of trauma. Post-traumatic growth is experienced when positive mental health experiences are experienced, which raises you to a higher level of functioning than you otherwise have achieved.

Recovery

By going through these phases successfully, it will help you to be free from the traumatized life and live a meaningful and rewarding life. Recovery from trauma gives a person new meaning to his life and the strength and secret of living a happier life. You must allow yourself the opportunity to heal.

What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. We are all responsible for everything in our life.  The best and the worse. Recovering from trauma gives us our control back. Don’t give away your power by blaming another person. We are the only ones thinking for ourselves. We can create peace and harmony and balance in our mind, then we can find it in our lives.

Many blessings to you.

 

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Healing from Trauma

Trauma is defined as something that throws us off balance. It is a state of confusion and forces us to shut down emotionally. Traumatic events can damage your senses, leaving you hopeless and vulnerable in this world. We will explain to you how to heal from trauma.

What happens with your body when you are traumatized?

Overproduction of stress hormones:

If you are consistently in a state of trauma, your stress hormones stay active and keep you in a state of high alert. You might experience a trembling startle response that reminds you of the traumatic event.

You will feel the fight or freeze mode:

You’ll either fight against your trigger or run from it; you will feel paralyzed. You may experience sleep disorders, and you may hate meeting people or isolate yourself.

Trauma is linked to future health problems.

Stress from a traumatic event can have long-term health effects:

  • Heart and liver chronic disease
  • Gastrointestinal illness
  • Cancer
  • Anxiety
  • Emotional numbness
  • Memory lapses
  • Distractibility
  • Diabetics
  • Many other unexplained illnesses.

I have a clientwho  suffered trauma, as a young child and because the body remembers, her body started to deal with the trauma that had not be resolved.

. This client was trying, but her body was reacting to her some unresolved symptoms of trauma.

Its important to love yourself. Doing things you enjoy, dancing, reading, or something that lightens up your heart.

At 14 years old she had to be hospitalized with pendezides.  Spend a week in the hospital recovering from that. Then she lost her touciles “repressed emotions”, later her gallbladder, “not been able to let go “bitterness. This is according to Louise Hays “ yu can heal your life.

today at 45 she is going through healing from diverticulitis, an illness where doctors had to take out 18 inches of her intestines. “She is spilling out her guts”. Physically.

Because spiritually she is unable too.

We need to heal ourselves by changing what is happening to us emotionally, physically, and spiritually. There is no need to continue with unresolved issues. They no longer serve us.

There are some phases of trauma recovery:

Safety and stabilization:

This phase aims to feel safe and secure. Trauma makes you feel uncertain in your body, and it can take months or years to feel safe and secure again. Depending upon the severity of trauma and how well you process it with your will-power.

The first step is to identify which of your emotions are linked with trauma, like intense fear or depression, and then learn how to manage and heal from these emotions. You can help this with the help of your loved ones or talking to a therapist. Getting help thru a mental health professional.

Remembrance and mourning:

The second phase is to name your trauma. Begin to use words and emotions to give a name to trauma and explain your situation to your friends or have counseling from a therapist to reduce your trauma and heal you. Give yourself time to grieve and express your feelings.

Reconnection and integration:

The third phase is about giving new hope to you for the coming future. Let you redefine yourself in a healing process. Take some steps to reclaim your personal will-power. Add a Mindful element, and meditation can also calm and help you as well. Mindfulness helps you to live in the current moment rather than thinking of the past.

Post-traumatic growth:

The fourth phase is post-traumatic growth. In this phase, you may be changed by your experience of trauma. Post-traumatic growth is experienced when positive mental health experiences are experienced, which raises you to a higher level of functioning than you otherwise have achieved.

Achieving recovery:

By going through these phases successfully, it will be time to entirely free from the traumatized life and live a meaningful and rewarding life. Recovery from trauma gives a person new meaning to his life and the strength and secret of living a happier life.

Learning to let go and acceptance can be vital to healing from emotional trauma. You must allow yourself the opportunity to heal. I now look back at the past with love and choose to learn from my old experience. The past is over and gone , you cannot change that,  I can control Only my experience of this moment, to love myself, for being me. Loving me for bringing myself through this past as a survivor. I share with you, who I am. We are all connected spiritually, Now, we are now well.

Many Blessings to you.

 

 

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Its Not You Its Trauma

How does trauma affect you? Unfortunately, it affects your life’s decisions. Knowingly and sub-conscionably. After a life-changing severe trauma, it doesn’t only change your life, it also changes your body, re-shapes your cells.  If that isn’t enough, it damages and alters our mindset, how can we tell if we are making the right decisions in picking the right relationship? Sometimes we make the same mistakes repeatedly. When trying to heal, do not linger with the symptoms of your experiences with trauma which include preventing you from doing what is your regular daily activities.

It’s a problem when being stuck in a state of panic, procrastination, or depression. But thanks to new research and treatment strategies, it is more possible than ever to emerge from this darkness.

Many therapists and as an Olympian Life Coach, I had noticed a pattern of behavior in some of my clients. I realized after many years of working with them and trying to help others, that most everyone had gone through an experience that kept them from moving forward.

When I asked why, these clients, most of them, had something in common, something very bad had to happen to them.  They could not achieve their goals or keep a job, they would start a job and within a short time span, they would quit or lose that job. They did give me many excuses, “they did not like me”, “I did not like them”. “I could not get them to understand how I felt”, “I called them names, so they fired me.”

Trauma not only affects our brains and ability to function, but it also affects our emotions. Trauma has even embedded itself in our bodies. We slouch, some of us walk with our heads down, heavy stressful moments can affect our nervous system, and we can react with extreme anxiety, or feel like we cannot breathe. Trauma not only clings to us but it makes us feel impaired, sometimes permanently, unable to process what is going on around us, feeling different, and not understanding why.

Is there healing from all that darkness? Each of us has a different way of dealing with life. I believe it is how we were raised. What kind of childhood did you have? Hard knocks teach us at a young age, how to cope with what was been handed to us. A popular phrase is “if all you get is lemons, make lemonade”!

What worked for me just might not work for you. I was raised in what westerners call a dysfunctional family with an alcoholic father. So, I was around a lot of arguments and violence. I felt as I was growing up, this was just a normal way of life. My mom always encouraged us (a large family of 14) to do better and make a better life for ourselves. She always said, “I don’t want you to end up, like me.” She was always giving us good advice. I now wished I would have listened more and applied what safety suggestions she offered. My mom knew best what she really did not want us to wind up with. Now I wished I would’ve listened.

Different people make different choices, especially if you do not know what has caused this bad behavior, especially when before all the trauma, you were achieving many things. What happened? Seeing a therapist, a psychologist, or a psychiatrist could help, unfortunately, they may want to get you on some medication, that might help or just slow your brain down. That is something to think about. I feel the best way is to heal without meds. But really the decision is up to the individual.

Healing could come from talking about your experience with others who have overcome the trauma, and some do. The trauma never goes away, but you learn to live around it, disabling its power over you and your life. There are now many different types of support groups out there. Do some research on the Internet and look for what is right for you.

Taking the wires of your brain and re-routing them to re-connect through meditation, can reconnect you to a more active life. No longer being a victim to it. Not letting the trauma or that experience take the best of you.